So you have been asked to give a eulogy for the funeral of someone you knew or loved. It may sound like a fitting idea, but that doesn’t always make it easy. If you’re looking for input from Southport, IN, funeral homes, it may be time to do a little research. Preparing a eulogy shouldn’t feel like a homework assignment, but nor should you simply try to wing it. Remember that what you say and how you say it could be incredibly important to someone listening. That doesn’t mean you should feel a great deal of pressure. But it does mean you should take this matter seriously and give it some thought. 

The first step is to think about whether you should indeed give the eulogy. That may sound automatic, but there are certainly circumstances in which it might be better if you elected not to—particularly if those asking are somewhat confused about your relationship with the deceased. Assuming you decide to give the eulogy, give yourself as much time in advance of the funeral to begin thinking about what you wish to say (at least in general). You do not necessarily need to prepare comprehensive notes from which to read, though some find this very helpful. However much you prepare, just be sure it isn’t at the last minute. That can create additional stress and potentially impact your ability to give a short and sweet eulogy in a comfortable fashion.

So what should you actually say once it is time to begin planning? You generally do not want to recap someone’s entire life, nor provide exhaustive details regarding the nature of your relationship. To the contrary, you should remember who your audience is and the extent to which they will want to relate. To that end, a small and poignant story or reference may well be in order. Perhaps recall something the deceased once said or something you once did together. Then, and to whatever extent you can, try and make a somewhat larger point about the deceased (while using your original story as an anchor). You don’t have to make a terribly important point. You don’t have to say anything brilliant. The point is simply to use a small anecdote to explain something more significant about your friend or loved one.

You generally shouldn’t worry too much about how long you speak. There will likely be a request that you speak for a certain amount of time, and you will want to remain in that ballpark. Practicing a eulogy in advance may be helpful to some, but it certainly isn’t necessary. It is perfectly fine for your eulogy to feel somewhat organic and from the heart.

If you are seeking help or advice from Southport, IN, funeral homes, consider reaching out to O’Riley - Branson Funeral Service & Crematory. We have a long history of addressing our clients’ needs in a caring and professional fashion. You may get in touch with us by visiting 6107 S East St, Indianapolis, IN 46227 or placing a phone call to (317) 787-8224.