Kathleen J. (Kelly) Caito

Kathleen J. (Kelly) Caito, 75, longtime Indianapolis resident and Cincinnati native, passed away peacefully at her home following a brief illness, with her loving family surrounding her. Kathy was born September 16, 1947, in Mariemont, Ohio, and entered into eternal rest on September 30, 2022. She was preceded in death by her father at a young age, Leslie Kelly, and her mother, with whom she had a very close relationship, Ruth (Sullivan) Kelly. Kathy, a proud Irish girl, met Joe Caito, a Xavier Musketeer from Indianapolis, when she was 18 years old. The two married on October 19, 1968 at St. Andrew’s Catholic Church in Milford, Ohio, and created a beautiful life and family together.

Kathy graduated from Mariemont High School in 1965. When she and Joe married in 1968, she loved her position as a supportive and loving wife in Indianapolis, where Joe began building a family produce business with his brother. Kathy remained Joe’s strongest business supporter, often behind the scenes, as daughters Kelly, Carrie, Laura, and Emily arrived to create the Caito Family that is known and loved by so many. Kathy was always active in the girls’ school at St. Lawrence as a CYO coach, PTO leader, essentially any task asked of her. Similar volunteering activities soon followed Kathy to her beloved Cathedral High School, where she was active in the Mothers’ Club, Shamrauction, and on the sidelines of literally hundreds of sporting events, where she cheered on her daughters and grandchildren until just weeks ago.

In addition to St. Lawrence, Kathy was more recently a loyal member of St. Simon the Apostle Catholic Church. She had served for many years on the CYO Board of Directors and the sports committee for CYO. She was awarded the Msgr. Albert Busald Award by the CYO in 1994.

The Indianapolis Catholic community has truly lost a pillar of the community. If there was a family in need, a volunteering position to be filled, a person to call for any help whatsoever, Kathy Caito was the person to call. She was dependable, determined, and committed to support her community.

Kathy was a huge supporter of and active in many children’s lives growing up, not just her own. She was the parent who served as the private confidante and counselor to her children’s friends. Her wisdom and incredible optimism which often took shape in the form of wise cliches will be forever cherished by many. “The best is yet to come” was often spoken from Kathy’s lips – with her huge smile and encouragement behind it.

Kathy lived life to the absolute fullest and never did anything with less than 100% of her energy and attention. She was a talented crafter – creating countless gifts made with all of her love for friends and family. She was a talented cross-stitcher, knitter, scrapbooker, and seamstress. Kathy had a great appreciation for the arts and also loved to express her creativity through painting and drawing in her free time. She loved to travel and created wonderful memories for her family and friends of her strong appreciation for tradition. Events like the Indianapolis 500 Mile Race where she would always prepare food and drink for the attendees, an over-the-top Christmas party, an annual Kelly reunion around Memorial Day in Indianapolis, and Christmas morning for family, are just a few of the recurring events that Kathy did quite well. She also had a strong appreciation for Broadway Theater and never turned down an opportunity to host family and friends for a meal. Simply put, Kathy was a beyond gracious and generous hostess.

Kathy’s love for Joe, the girls, and their husbands, who truly became Kathy’s sons, when each of them married, was strong and unconditional. The role she played as Ama to her twelve grandchildren was second to none. Kathy’s life as Ama appeared complete as she nurtured and loved each for their talents and uniqueness. She could cheer louder than nearly anyone at sporting events, but was somehow able to become even more boisterous when cheering for her own grandchildren!

Kathy is survived by her beloved husband of 53 years, Joseph A. Caito; daughters, Kelly (Bob) Kirch, Carrie (David) Frizzell, Laura (Matt Jefferson) Caito, and Emily (Tommy) Caito-Yeadon; siblings, Mary Frances “Francie” (Rocky) Kelly-Miller, Irene “Renie” Kelly, Timothy Kelly, Patricia (Kevin) Murray, Janet (Scott) DuBois, and Michael Kelly; grandchildren, Robert, George, Nina, and Oscar Kirch; Charlotte, Samantha, and Joseph Frizzell; Max, Beatrice, and Jolie Caito-Jefferson; Emry and Lila Yeadon; and many nieces and nephews.

Kathy Caito left everyone better. And as Kathy would say, “Take care of you for me.”

Kathy’s Life Celebration® Visitation and Funeral Mass will be held at St. Simon the Apostle Catholic Church, 8155 Oaklandon Road, Indianapolis, IN 46236. The visitation will be on Wednesday, October 5, 2022, from 4 to 8 p.m. The Mass of Christian Burial will begin at 10 a.m., Thursday, October 6, 2022. Entombment will follow at Our Lady of Peace Catholic Church. While Kathy loved flowers, memorial contributions may be made to any one of the charities that Kathy enjoyed supporting: Cathedral High School, Catholic Youth Organization, or to the Children’s Tumor Foundation.

O’Riley – Branson Funeral Service & Crematory is serving the Caito Family. Visit www.ORileyBranson.com to share a favorite memory or to sign the online guest registry.

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  1. Dear Joe and family, we send our love and prayers to you all. We will carry the memory of Kathy’s beautiful smile contagious laugh, and gracious personality in our hearts. God bless you with a beautiful wife and mother! Much love and prayers Jim and Gretchen Cain

  2. Mr Caito, Emily, Kelly, Carrie and Laura,

    My deepest condolences on passing of Mrs Caito. I remember a few Indy 500 weekends with her chicken salad as our packed lunch for race day. I also remember having dinner with Mr and Mrs Caito after a contentious Xavier loss to Butler(water fountain game) in Broadripple and she was so kind and generous to us emotional fans.
    What a wonderful, kind person ❤️❤️
    My heart it with you all during this time,
    Emily Fagel

  3. From stitching tshirt blankets to showing support at every one of her grandchildren’s sporting events, she did it all. I feel so grateful to have known such a caring, generous, and selfless woman. She treated everyone she meant with nothing but warmth and love. Her sappy texts, killer Rice Krispie treats, and watching George’s football games together are just a few of my favorite memories. Sending so much love your guys way ❤️

  4. Kathy was a godsend and will
    Be missed so much! I’ve known her since my kids were little at St. Lawrence! They are an amazing family and she will be so missed!! Mike and Julie McCormick!ߒ”

  5. Ama was a special person with a huge heart. Growing up, I looked at her as my second grandmother. She will be missed, but her legacy will live on through all of us. I will never forget spending Fourth of July at her house every year and all the other memories we shared together. Rest in peace ama

  6. From St. Lawrence to St. Simon…so many years of your family’s kindness and generosity. God bless you Joe and may her soul and all the souls of the faithful departed rest in peace. And let perpetual light shine upon her. Chris and Mj Krauter

  7. What a wonderful and faith-filled lady! I first met her at a St. Simon CYO game at Nativity. Her children and grandchildren are all a strong testament to her, at least the ones I know. I am sure she will have a fast trip to heaven and her eternal reward!

  8. For having Nina as a best friend, was to have ama and Joe apart of your life. She was such a sweet and beautiful soul and she will be missed so deeply. Such an amazing family to have her soul and spirit live on ߤ

  9. May you find peace in your memories at this painful time. We remember Kathy from your St. Lawrence days. And as our faith teaches us, at death “The best is yet to come”! Until we meet again in heaven, May God hold Kathy in the palm of his hand.
    David and Nancy Cheesman

  10. Her laughter and light filled the room at Bob’s birthday party. Wow. So very sorry. Prayers for your family Kelly and Bob.

  11. So sorry about the loss of your mom, grandma and Joe your loving wife. She was always so much of an inspiration and we enjoyed seeing her at St. Simon and Cathedral over many years. Full of so much love and life! Prayers for you all! The Cerar Family

  12. This woman was my mom….my aunt…..my sister….my best friend…..there r not enough letters n alphabet 2 spell the words 2describe what an honor it was2have fallen n love with such an ANGEL she was….is…..my biological mom’s name was ANGEL….I was always wished these2ANGELS would have met….NOW THEY R UP THERE DIRECTING TRAFFIC….& laughin & lookin over us & sending blessings upon us….2the Caito/Kirch family…iloveloveloveU…& ANYTHING I can do, I am but a call away!!

  13. Kathy was so loved! She made me laugh so many times when I was a teacher at St. Lawrence. She was one very special lady!!

    Brenda (Burkhart) Allspaw

  14. One of my favorite memories of Kathy was probably 23 years again. We were on an airplane coming to Indy from Florida. Greg and I had 3 small children. My youngest was screaming. Kathy came and took
    Her and walked up and down the plane until she fell asleep. Then she held her until we landed. She was my angel that day!
    We love the Caito Family!

  15. Wishing you peace to bring comfort, courage to face the days ahead and loving memories to forever hold in your hearts.

  16. Wishing you peace to bring you comfort, courage to face the days ahead & loving memories to hold in your hearts. We are truly sorry for your loss.

  17. Praying for Joe, the girls and family during this difficult time. Rest in Paradise, Kathy. With love, Scott, Bubs, Jeff and Joe.

  18. Our prayers are with you. Your Seaward Neighbors: Heim, Cunningham, Alaniz, Martin, Thornhill, Davidson, Courtney, Moores, Law, Robinson, Miller

  19. We are deeply sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you, Scott Dickerson and family.

  20. We are so so sorry for your great loss. . . Kathy was a remarkable woman and knew her when our children were young in grade school. She was always so supportive and helpful and kind. Heaven has gained an Angel! Prayers for you Joe and Carrie and your families. With much love. Larry and Mary McVay and Stephen Mabarak.

  21. To Bob and Kelly Kirch and the Caito Family, Sending our condolences during this difficult time.

  22. Kathy not only served so many people but had a personality along with a unique way of communicating with the many people in her life. She was (is) the person everyone should emulate. The Desautels are proud to be friends with Joe & Kathy. God bless you both.

  23. Such sad news to hear about the loss of Kathleen, would always see her at St Lawrence, CYO and the Cathedral events. Always a bright smile, she always shared so much with so many! I am so sorry for your loss Mr. Caito and for the whole family. Heaven certainly was whipped into shape and made more fun when Kathleen arrived! Continued Prayers!

  24. We are praying for you during this sad time. Kathy was a wonderful person full of love for everyone. Sending much love from the Floods.

  25. Please accept our sincere condolences; and, know we are covering Kathy’s family and her in prayers.

  26. Oh Kelly I’m so very sorry to read about your mom’s passing. Her light shines on through you and your children. Praying for comfort and peace. Much love to you.


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